Empower Yourself

Assalamualaikum.

Self empowering is vital to us as one machanism to build up our personality. By empowering yourself, your will get many benefit and feedback to improve yourself. The varieties ways you can do to realize it. I will analysis how to empower yourself in three dimensions.

First, empower your cognitive. The way you think, it is showing your personality. To be a creative and critise thinker, you must have a lots of knowledge. The knowledge is belongs to whom; which is like to reading and finding experiences. The formula for being a good reader is, you get ready with 5Q's (What, Who, Which, Whom, Where). Not only that, by seeing others, you will have many potential to empower your cognitive. While you see others, try to look what they are doing and try to process your cognitive as well. It is the free gift for you! Cognitive's training also is need. Try to spend your time to play some games that encourage you to think; like chess, sahiba, drawing and so on.

Next, empower your behaviour. Everyone will spot at you if you are have good attitudes. To be a pioneer, you need to spend your time with positive social habits. Avoid from the gengsterism, playing truant the classes, smoking, and join good activities. On the other hand, try to close to our Creator and believe that; He will care of us. Please appreciates yourself and your parent. Respect others is also the way to empower yourself and try to communicate with others as well. Genuine to yourself and many people will like you. But do not hypocrite. We are not the best, but we can put our best to learn.

Empower your affective is also one of the process to be a good human. Stress management is need because If you are stressed, you will face many problems. Recently, many programmes about Emotion and Spiritual Quotient. So, you can join to learn and manage your emotion and spiritual. It is the one way for you to gain your affective effectively. No one can change your life except yourself!

Empower yourself!

With that, Thank You.
Truely,
"Big Heart With A Fantastic Dream"

Undergraduate

Assalamualaikum.

I would like to share about the student's life challenging. The wonderful moments is; you are appreaciates your campus life. An excellent students not only a bookworm, but you need to active. It is good if you're get both of it. The reasons you do not have the chances, too busy, a lot of assignments it is normal because it is your responsibilities. If you say that you're not interest to join activities, you will loss. Yes! Our priority is to study but it is the value added for you. You will not develop, if your routine just attending the class.

There a some tips how you want to be an active undergraduate. First, join any club. From that, you will arrange many activities to do. It is the good advantages for you to train and improves yourself to handle the activities. With that, you can get many experiences.You can learn a lot!

Do not be just a follower in activities, but try to join the organisations. The best experiences is you learn the situation in organisation and you will know to handle it. Remember! Maybe you will face some difficulties to adapt yourself with others around you. But, this is the bonus for you because you will learn something in your life. You will train your communication skills ; how to communicate with others and the life as a representatives. It is wonderful moments. It is not an easy to join organisation, but you can try. Believe that you will get something for yourself soon.

Next, you need to be hardworking. If you are hardworking, many people will respect you. But, please be aware that maybe some people will take advantage to be a bystander and do not want to work with you and it is your role to attract your partner to settle the works together. Remember that, you cannot work alone in organisation because you need to help each others and work together. You need to hardwork to help others and please cope from prejudice. Once you help others, others will help you soon.

Besides, try to manage your time effectively. If you have many programmes in one time, please devide the job properly with other members. Maybe you will face some difficulties. But, it is your role as long you do not have any quarrel and the consideration is yours. With that, you will learn to manage your cognitives and affectives smoothly. Automatically, you will learn how to manage your time if you are busy. The correlation among the members is need because you need to understand each others.

You need to know your accountabilities and please do not pass your accountabalities to others because you will show your weakness. Others will not respects you and be realistic. If you just want to be a leader, you can't because the leader need to work too. The best is, you are working together. If you can't catch up, please tell to them as long they will understand you.

Lastly, try to be a pioneer. If you are handle some programmes, try to invite all students, not only some people can join your programmes. Beneficiance is need to all and your programmes will give some effect to others, it is the best. What the problems is, some programmes just involve certain students and it is not holistic. So, try to be a pioneer to others. After the programmes, you need to do a postmortem to estimate about the programmes.

These are some tips for you how to be an effective undergraduate because you will know many accomplishments and new skills before you are going to the setting. You will! What you gives, you will get back. Thank you.

Truely,
"Big Heart With A Fantastic Dream"

Lovely Grandmother

Assalamualaikum.

This silent morning, the collague's residence still on the bed. Nothing to do at 4.00 a.m and by streching the head forward to the window, nothing can I see. Empty morning. I had listened someone coughing. I can't close my eyes, actually. What happened to me? I did not take rice for 2 days. I do not have any mood to go to cafetaria. Just eating the bread and Maggi. Perhaps, calories in my body will decrease. Maybe, tomorrow I will take the rice. I miss my granny alot. What she is doing now?With whom she sleeps? My grandfather died since I was in form 4. My granny is too old now. She is alone in her house. But, my granny's brother and her sister's home is near by hers. I think she is missing me too. For along time I did not back to my hometown, Thailand. History of mine is there. I like to eat and cook with her. While I am eating, she will wait and will look at me with a sweet smiles. I will invited her to join. Maybe, she likes to see her grand daughter to eat first. We are sharing alots! Many histories about our family she told to me. I will patiently listened to her and she take care of myself since I was too young, 3 years old, I live with her. She will give me a bottle of milk before I sleep. Untill now, I can see the history of milk's bottle when I return to my home village, Thailand. She was keeping the milk's bottle as long as, I will remember that I was live with her while I am a younger.

Everywhere she goes, I will follow her and she will not leave me alone. She will sleep with me and when I need her, she will come. She cares of myself until my ages 7 years. But, even my ages 7 years, I still back to my hometown and we are very close. I will cry If my mum brought me back to my home. How close I am, with her? I hope, she is in a good health. I always pray to her as long she is well. I miss her and I want to visit her soon when the holidays come. I will wait for the best holidays with her.

It is all about my grand mother, Hajjah Safiyah Bt Haji Walong, 80 years.

English Forum

Assalamualaikum.

I am reading for the next chapter for 4P subject. I need a breath of fresh air. My mind very tired. Better to stop! So, without wasting my time, I had joined the english forum by surfing the internet to release my mind. I hope with a big heart, I can improve my language soon by joining this forum; who want to learn english. A forum for everyone interested in English will help me. I do not know who are administrator for this forum. Very good forum board. Neglect it. So funny, I had killed two birds with one stone. But, one bird was died ( 4P subject) because I had focused for forum. It is okay to get back my mood.

Truely,
"Big Heart With A Fantastic Dream"

Grasp The Stars

I sit alone at an old bench
My fingers draw the stars at the white sand
I look and I smile alone
The stars that I was draw very beautiful
But I cannot touch the stars
Because it just an illusion and just only a sketch

I sit alone at the beach
My fingers touch the beach
And dip to the water
Very cold and the water drop one by one
The waves come and the drop water from my fingers
goes by the heavy waves

I sit alone at the flowers garden
Many beautiful flowers
I love to pluck the flower but I think I will hurt them
So, I just smell the pink rose
Many thorn and It will hurt me too
I was keep my smile to look this scenery
To go far through this journey in this garden

Because many experiences I was faced
Either I want to draw the star or want to smell the rose
Certaintly it is not an illusion
Because I will touch the rose's thorn
Even it will hurt me
As long my big illusion will be possible
And I will use the thorn to draw the stars
Because life is a journey not a destination
Think possible you will get the possible results
The times will come

"It is better to love what you do and find occasional fault than to never live happy at all. The entire motive for becoming a success is to experience joy and self-satisfaction as you advance. If you continue striving towards the things you are passionate about, you will eventually find what you are looking for."

Poem wrote by,
Truely,
"Big heart With A Fantastic Dream"

Confidential

Assalamualaikum.

This day is precious day for myself enough. No more stress but the only one thing that I need to focuses is for my killer subject. But, this day totally I am taking a rest. Perhaps, I will relax untill this evening because I need to free before I want to make my smart revison. Smart? Really?Huhu. So, this time I will get more relaxs.Hahaha. But, at 8.00 p.m I will start to focus back.

I love to write again. This is about confidentiality. Confidentiality is very important and what the scale you want to say that your are good secret keeper and a good confidential? 1-10? Counseling teach me more about confidentiality. For a 22 years I breath, I am very lucky because still have good friends but, I do not care who want to know about my self because I do not have many secret and I am also do not like gossips about others! Too much wasting time, right?But, what the confidential for myself is care about others secret and confidential. Once you burst out others secret, It is bad personality and it show your weakness. Especially for counselor need to be a private human because they need to aware about their client privacy inspite of counselor need to give information if emergency cases.

On the other hand, confidentiality is need in counseling group. There are two issues regarding confidentiality. First the leader ethical for keeping material confidential and the leader lack of total control regarding members keeping matters confidential. It is unethical if the leader divulge information to anyone except any cases. There are exceptions to this rule.

Whatever in this life, we need to think twicely before we talk. Because, once we talk, many we will share. So, find the true person to share your privacy. We need to be more becareful before we ashamed. Confidential is everything. Allah will keep your disgrace if you keeping other disgrace. Insyaallah.

Let's think:

"Being personable is a key ingredient to accomplishing the respect of others. It's important for you to be able to get along with as many different types of people as possible. By doing so you will find it much easier to get the support when you are attempting to lead others to the promise land."

Truely,
"Big heart With A Fantastic Dream"

Social Networking

Assalamualaikum. Hye!

Today I woke up very late because last night I cannot sleep well. Nothing trouble in my mind, but maybe I am a blog walker like to read others blogs. I woke up while I had stomachace. So, I run quickly to the ladies. Maybe I ate too much noodle for my dinner. Hye guys! I do not want to bubling, too much. Let's focus for our discussion topic. I am cutting off my self right now. Hoho

What your opinion about social networking? I was read form donutz 's blog about this topic and I like it. So, this ideas come from her. Let's read what the content from her blog.

"The word of Social Networking maybe is not a strange word to be heard. The social networking program is very popular among the people both in the developed countries or countries in the developing because we can easily find a person we looking for or find a new friend or even do business cooperation with various people from various countries in the world without have to spend a lot of money to make a phone call to other country, all you need to do is have an internet connection at home."

But she (donutz) was focuses for acobay networking.

So,I (Afiti) think I should explain about my opinion too. Social networking for the counseling perspectives is you need to started your relationship with others. That's mean relationship among human and human. Do not too shy to start it. Maybe some of you do not like to link with others, so from now we need to do it. It is too easy to start just one smile you will know others because when you smile others will interest to speak with you. What the benefit for , you will know soon. Next, try to speak with others. While you speak, you need to know the content. What the content you needs to discuss? First, maybe you can ask someone about his/her background and make sure that you know other persons with a positive thinking. Do not too prejudice to others and try to build the relationship fidelity. InsyaAllah, Allah will care both of you. Try to speak one by one as long as others will understand to you and do not too over. The tips is, you need to humble while talking to others and try to learn smoothly. Please make sure that you're good listener too. So, others will feel comfortable with you. Betterly, try to talk something is from you heart about an issues and do not too emotional. It is not mean you know many people you are like publisity. Not! It is not mean you want to famous. Totally not! Because your personality is social dominant and you are easy going it is the package for you too. You need to low your egoistic while talking with others. If you do not have this package, how? I was explain to you is it, to start with a smile and do not shy to talk. But it is not mean you need to talkative. Over talkative is also big problems. Huhu.

Social networking is important for you in you social life especially for those who are working in social fields like counselor, teacher, politician and others. I think If you are in emergency case, surely you want to contact the people who are experts to handle it. So, this is the chances for you and that's why social networking is important. As a student, social networking with your teachers or lecturers also crutial. It is not mean you want to get best mark from them, it is totally fault. Do not use this advantage for your personal interest but social networking will give you win-win situation to both of you. Maybe you can plan other project to do If you know many people and you also will easy to realise it.

You need to avoid the social networking to corrupt others. Eg: Your friend is a police. You are involved in criminal and you contact him to ask a help as long he will help you free from the law. It is not professional and from ethic's perspectives, you are not good in social networking because you are maladaptives. So, strenghten social networking in positive ways and you will get many benefits. It is not loss to you if you recognizable many people. Instead of, you will get many benefits because in this recent life, you cannot live alone. So, social networking is very important to us and I hope you will be good social networker.

I am so sorry If I have done many grammar mistakes. But, before I want to go study to abroad, I want to learn english. Just my dreams. Who wants to dream if not your self, right. Huhu.

Truely,
Truely,
"Big heart With A Fantastic Dream"

Appreciate

Nerd..?Hehe

Assalamualaikum. Ellowpz

Nothing to do. Actually, my book crying as long as they want I read them. Huhu. I want to post one more entry. Give me one chance okeyh! What the precious thing in your life? I am not materialistic. But one more I do not want to lose and I do not want it far from me. What? Try to guess. Hehe. Of course my glasses!

I am looking nerd because my spectacles. Actually, I am specky girl while I was too young. I do still remember that I am in standard 5 my father invited me went to optometrist to check my eyes because I have problem to read. I like to read too much while I was in standard. I am struggle girl to get 5A's in UPSR. So, I was well-known as a book warm. Perhaps, too much reading and posture while studying was not in good condition. So, I was using the glasses untill right now. But sometimes, I think that, people need to appreciate their eyes and need to care what Allah gives to us. My beautiful eyes is get under cover by glasses. Huhu. Sometimes, I took contact lens if I am not rushing to go to class.

The moral of value is, we are need to appreciate what Allah lends to us. To get the dreams, we need to care what we have.

Short Story

Assalamualaikum.Hye!

I try harder and harder to jott something down on this blog again. A few days I did not write any entry. Too much priority need to settle down. Actually, I was settle my first paper for Cross Culture's Subject. No comment and the scale I can answered the question also I cannot describe. Just surrender to God. However I was sacrifice and put my most excellent to answer. This night I want to have a rest and read short stories by surfing the google. I read short story about The Music On The Hill by Saki.

Actually, too much vocab I need to refer the dictionary. Very difficult but, I still confuse. I was certaintly success If I try harder. Fuh! This night, listening to music make me calm and of course my mind was in therapeutic condition. Uncounscious condition, how the times fly away. Next term, I will sit for semester 7. The time is like the water. Thesis projects is most important and money need to prepare. Money and money. Money is like the water too. How can I survive for my life without money. No money, no talk really?

Do you want to see my last moment picture while I was in standard 2, ..I think (1994)? Suddenly, I found this picture, so I uploaded on to this blog.
My father, my mum, my self and my siblings.
(Zaman Kejahilan Diri)

Simple Word To Say

Assalamualaikum,Hye!

The chances come again to jott something down on this blog. May be I'm very busy to catch up; because too much blog and work to do. Proposal started. I just have 3 assignments more. Counseling Group report, Proposal and Cross Culture Education. On this Friday I will go to UKM for peers programes. I've invited Faiz, and Sa (my junior) to join me and we will go there together. This programme is a collaboration between Counselor: Along Hisyam, Ayahanda Mustapha and Ustaz Rosli. They are counselors from SMK Seremban Jaya. Experiences is teacher to whom are appreciate their life so much! Too much work and assignment not a blockage for me to get new experience!

Educator

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Assalamualaikum,Hye!

For along time I didn't post new entry for sharing something information on this blog. The limited times needed myself to evaluate what is the most priority or what I need to settle first. Leadership is one of the most salient aspects of the organizational context. However, defining leadership has been challenging.

As a student, I have many responsibilities and my leadership to focus for my studying.. assignments,..programmes, responsibilities to others students and campus, my job and...huh! Management and commitment is need ! I'm tired to tell more about it,.because I believe, you all, also have many responsibilities to lead these! Please Pray to our God and I hope He will guide us to lead ourself smoothly to be a good leader too. InsyALLAH!

Grasp

Iman wants to join me

Giving smile practice is need as a counselor. Hehe..is it?I used Zetty's handphone to take my new picture without my spectacle in the class 4P.

Assalamualaikum, Hye!

There are something good to express my mood. I didn't know how to explain. But, I would love to sharing on this blog even I'm using limited english words. This cloudless morning, make my heart very cool. After reading Group Conseling Strategies and Skills's book, my mood became very good. I got something after reading this book. That's mean, after studying the past subjects, like intervention, individual counseling, I need to combine and applicate what I have learn for the group. Everything is same, but what the different is how to applicate in group counseling. Actually, I hope too, God will keep up my mood to read this book. Simple english in Jacob, Masson and Havill book make me easy to understand even I'm not good in english.

Tomorrow, my class untill 7.00 p.m. Usually on Wednesday, make me tired. Probably, tomorrow I will be tired too. Normal! Start at 8.00 am till 11.00 a.m for ethic's subject, 11.00-1.00 p.m for educational group (lab) and 4.00 p.m- 7.00 p.m 4P (University's subject). I hate for the timetable arrangement, but no more choices, because I need to rush to pray at the limited time 4.00 p.m-7.00 p.m. Sometimes, we were asking for 4P (chinese lecturer) to stop the class early as long we get to pray for Asar.

Too much rambling, so, I need to cutt-off. I learn alots, about cutting off, drawning out for group, for tonight after reading that book. Hurm,.I just want to improve my english writing, so, my fingers started to dance. Hehe..! I want to take a nap.

Thank You,.

"Kampung Girl"

Taraa!!! It is my favourite.

My Favourite as a village girl..hehe

Cencaluk
Vege soup

Fried Eggs and ikan kering..hehe

Assalamualaikum.,Hye!

Today make me very satisfied to serve my simple meals. The most I like is ulam-ulam because while I was at my village, it is my food routine especially petai and jering. Kak Fida went to market and she bought me some petai and Dewi returned from Dr.Ezani's garden with abundance of jering. She never forget to bring me some jering because she knows that I like to eat ulam-ulam. Thanks Dewi and Kak Fida.

While I was at Thailand, I learn from my granny and my late grand father to eat vegetables. I'm a vegetarian. My auntie told me like "Kambing a.k.a goat" because I like to eat green vegetables especially ulam-ulam. While I was 6 years, I ate petai and jering too much untill I had stomachache. From that, I like to eat this vegetables untill now. Mybe, If I have the chances to learn at oversea, I want to bring it too. Hehe. Tempoyak, cencaluk, budu and all village food style, I love to eat. So, I'm not too strict and not a food chooser. I eat everything that I can eat.

You can learn to eat these types of vegetables because you can get many benefits especially for your health; to maintain your kidneys and blood's circle . Not many teenagers like to eat this "ulam-ulam". For me, it is very delicious and you can try it.

Thank You,.

Welcome-welcome

Assalamualaikum.Hye!

Yesterday reminds me to our projected. Making kuih"welcome-welcome a.k.a jemput-jemput"(named by Kak Fida). Hehe. Dila very excited to make it. It is best to put the chilli sauce. You can eat for your launch or tea time. There are some ingredients for "welcome-welcome".

Ingredients:

1. Flour
2. Salt
3. Vegetables (Carrot)
4. Oil

Thank You,.

Today and Tomorrow

Assalamualaikum, Hye.

Holiday is the relaxation time but how can I manage the time effectively? Precious moment equally the golden time that I manage smoothly through my routine. Sometimes, my routine not so good, because too much time focus on the screen, thus gives effect for my eyes. However, this week I can feel that I flowed my holidays with the great meanings. Is it?Hurm..

Major Activities:

1. Settled down my presentation slides
2. Read (Continued for yesterday "Group Counseling)
3. Wrote in blog
4.Surfed an internet (read for blogs)
5. Cleaned my bedroom and washed my clothes
6. Cooked
7. Studied for english
8.Solah
9. Thinking..thinking..and thinking....

Minor Activities:

1. Chatting (Dicuss about " tut")
2. Ate
3.Read issues
4. Slept
5. Sang! (Singing and singing and sing song seng!)Hehe. Mybe to release!!!
6. Still thinking and thinking..huhu

Conclusion; thinking is none stop hobby for myself and I dont want to talk too much. If don't have important thing, I don't want to talk. So, think and think before you talk, Ohh..Afiti..Afiti!

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It is among activities what I have done. It is all about for today.

My main plan for tomorrow is:

1. Reading "A Great and Terrible Beauty" written by Libba Bray
2. Doing my next assignments for
a) Video
b) Summary for video (I will try to do it, I don't want to pospone it again!!!)
c) Ethics assignment for grouping. How long I want to finish it, haaaaa?????. I will do and try to settle down this assignments tomorrow. I promise to myself!!!
d) No, more! Just finishing parts a,b,c..only! I believe that..I will pospone all my assignments again,. if too much plans!!! Try to make it slowly, and progressly. Lastly your assignments will finish Afiti! The reason that you don't have mood to do it, just rethoric! So, untill when??

Thank You,..